Thursday, July 17, 2014

Don't Sell Your Plan

It is often said that a man must be decisive. Most of us know that “whatever you want” is always the wrong answer to a woman’s question. 

No matter what stage of dating you are in with a girl, I would take this advice one step further — never try to persuade a girl of any plan. When interacting with men, you can use logic to convince them of the merit of a particular course of action. The second you start selling your plan to women, though, it reeks of desperation and shows that you are begging for her approval. Here’s an excerpt of a text exchange I had with a girl:
Me: “Let’s get together Thursday night"
Girl: "Sorry, I'm going to XYZZZZZ :)"
Girl:”But what did you have planned?"
She wanted me to take the bait and dazzle her with my best offer so she could reject me yet again. I could have either agreed and amplified, telling her that I reserved a hot air balloon, seventeen course meal, and backstage passes to a Coldplay concert just for the two of us. But, my time is valuable -- why would I set myself up for future flakes and debase myself to be her dancing clown? Instead, I never spoke to the girl again. 

There’s a great post in the Danger and Play archives about this principle within a semi-relationship. You must operate from a place where spending time with you, and not whatever thing you are doing, is the valuable component to the plan.

A rookie mistake is to assume that women can be persuaded logically to spend time with you, but attraction cannot be negotiated. Because they tend to live more in the moment (and because they have so many offers), women are not going to do anything that they don't immediately want to do. If you have to justify or sell, you've already lost.

Never sell your plan to girls. If they feign that they are deciding whether to spend time with you conditional on your plan, they see you as a low-value sucker whose time and wallet they can rape with impunity.

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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Beige Phillip Podcast Review - Episode 94 - A Typical Marriage

I’ve written a couple of posts on ROK inspired by Dante Nero’s Beige Phillip show, a solid podcast that showcases many Red Pill principles while continuing the intellectual and philosophical lineage of Patrice O’Neal. I’ve been working my way through the back catalogue, and plan on dropping a few reviews of episodes when I think of it. Check out the show on the iTunes store or the official website.

The theme of this episode (#94) was giving up control in a marriage. Comedian Joe Matarese recounts how his wife moved them out to the suburbs (away from his career and family, closer to hers) and subsequently encouraged a (female) psychiatrist to diagnose him with mental health issues and put him on 11 different medications. This is a layup example of the growing tendency to pathologize masculinity and sacrifice society at the altar of big pharma. It's only going to get worse.

Matarese also says that his wife disapproves when he has a couple of drinks, and even complains when he has more than one coffee. “I love you when you’re just you” — Typical female excuse to abridge a man having fun and breaking out of the matrix, if only for a few hours. Her justification is that Matarese never drank at the beginning of their relationship, so now it is suddenly unacceptable. This is grim example of one of the Beige Phillip principles — anything you do for a woman more than 3 times is an obligation. 

There was a light subplot of Mara’s story of getting arrested, a bogus charge for handing a drink to an underage bar patron even though she didn’t take the order. Harry astutely points out that things again are different in “Mara world”, referring to her polite treatment by police officers. 

Dante drops a bomb on Matarese when he asks about his wife when he asks what she says she needs to fix about herself. Matarese had no answer. Poignant question, and excellent example of how women feel that they can slide in a relationship without working on themselves. Patrice used to say that “pussy is the wheels on the car” in the context of a committed relationship, meaning that girls who expect you to stick around regardless of their drive to “be a better bitch” are dangerous bets for commitment, I wish Dante had hammered on this point a bit more, but most likely he didn’t want to harp too heavily on the inequity in Matarese’s marriage because it’s already a done deal.

Matarese was an adequate guest, mostly notable for his cautionary tale of a marriage and mainstream blue pill views on his relationship. Dante drops solid wisdom throughout the podcast to combat it, and the juxtaposition makes it an effective teaching tool. No listener mail this week.

Overall Rating: 3/5

Line Of The Week: “I know a lot of smart Ph.D motherfuckers who are dumb as shit“ - Dante

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Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Pill Scout's Male Health Protocol

I was excited to hear that one of my favorite bloggers, Pill Scout, was releasing a book to supplement the excellent wisdom he has dispensed on his blog. Pill Scout's first eBook, "The Male Health Protocol," provides an excellent Cliff's Notes version for advice on diet, exercise, mood, sleep, and general wellness. This book can be bought as a package with the "Testosterone Black Book," which contains tips on how to naturally increase one's testosterone and performance in the bedroom.

The book isn't just useful for the supplementally and nutritionally uninitiated --- I've been following Pill Scout's blog for a while now, and though I have diet and exercise practices in the top 10% of men my age, I still found a few things to tweak for the better. Reading through this excellent compilation reminded me, for example, to revisit the jar of apple cider vinegar in my fridge and told me about the specific benefits of green tea. I also learned that L-Citrulline could help as an erection enhancer, and that raw cocoa powder could help to improve my workouts. These minor tips are worth the price alone, and the book may be a revelation for those who are starting without much knowledge on nutritional supplementation.

My only critiques on Pill Scout's book are very minor. As someone else mentioned, including dosages would have been helpful, and there are a few areas where terms are included without definitions ---"keto" for instance, could have benefitted from a one or two-line explanation, and perhaps some background or protocol on the non-intuitive (but highly beneficial) practice of intermittent fasting.

Overall, this an excellent collection from one of my favorite bloggers, a book that can benefit both newbies and veterans of Pill Scout's site. Be sure to buy it and also check out his new site over at Anarcho Introvert.

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Are You Hungry Or Thirsty?

"Thirsty guys are ruining the game" - Several on-point manosphere authors

I think of these terms differently, though both are primal urges from our lizard brains. The difference is that a human can go three weeks without food, while he will die after three days without water. A hungry man can still make long-range, goal-oriented changes to his behavior. A thirsty man will desperately try to reach his goal in the minimum amount of time without putting in the work necessary to make sustainable changes. Here are some examples:
  • A hungry man will work tirelessly to build a sustainable business
  • A thirsty man will join a multi-level marketing scheme to try to make a quick buck

  • A hungry man will work to exhaustion in the gym, building muscle the hard way by lifting heavy
  • A thirsty man will load up on supplements, do a few bicep curls on a bosu ball, and take a bunch of mirror selfies sucking in his gut

  • A hungry man will sustainably change to his diet to promote longevity, health, and aesthetics
  • A thirsty man will try a fad diet for a week, and then give up and go back to McDonalds

  • A hungry man will suit up, hit a couple clubs, and make his approaches in a workmanlike manner
  • A thirsty man will dart from target to target, opening each girl in the bar with the same line, making people feel uncomfortable and escalating without receiving any interest

  • A hungry man will build his portfolio of vibe, personality, fitness, and social skills in a holistic attempt to make himself more attractive
  • A thirsty man will ignore the finer aspects of personal development because he's desperate to get laid&nbsp

  • A hungry man will take his lumps approach women in real life and may supplement with online dating
  • A thirsty man will sign up for a dating site, spam 100 girls with "hey u r cute", and then gripe about hypergamy when he can't close anything above a 3

Thirsty men make the game worse for everyone, but hungry men represent that competition that motivates you to elevate your game in all areas of your life. Which one applies to the people you surround yourself with? And which one are you?

Monday, March 31, 2014

Introducing The Red Pill Review

Jonathan Frost is one of the manosphere's most thoughtful and consistent voices. He has authored a much-referenced lifestyle guide, has expanded into being a fiction writer, and promotes the advancement of masculinity at his blog, Thumotic.

It is no surprise, then, that Frost's latest venture also helps to further the ideals of this small but growing community. His new website is The Red Pill Review, a manosphere aggregator with a slightly different bent compared to existing aggregators. It uses an automatic RSS feed for pre-approved blogs and Twitter accounts. The site also contains a continually updated master reading list for Red Pill thought, and a weekly updated Top 10 Posts list for those of us who are in the process of reducing our information diets.

As in the free market, more competition within a niche in the manosphere is always a good thing for its consumers. You should try all of the available aggregators and pick the one you feel suits your needs most effectively, but be sure to test out Red Pill Review for yourself. I'm looking forward to seeing how it is built up in the coming weeks.

Monday, March 3, 2014

Book Review: "Bachelor Pad Economics" By Aaron Clarey

Aaron Clarey's most recent contribution to the Manosphere canon is perhaps his strongest and most important overall, collecting the themes of his previous work and distilling them into a consistent and complete world view. "Bachelor Pad Economics" is, at its most basic, a how-to guide for living a life outside of the matrix of conventional wisdom. Fans of Captain Capitalism will recognize his trademark sarcasm as he explains unplugging from societal expectations, girls, economics, education, minimalism, mindset, and the future of the country. 

One of my favorite parts of the book is where Clarey addresses the end-game of bachelorhood, and the major factors that a bachelor will have to deal with as he ages:

"The reason was that while 12 hours ago you were the life of the party and you genuinely were the most interesting person there, 99.9% of the people in attendance were normal people with normal lives. [...] Who do you talk to? Who do you discuss your adventures with? No one, because htere is nobody that can compare to you, let alone relate to you"

It was also refreshing to hear a concise perspective on how to find a wife. The vast majority of Manosphere writing is understandably focused on the demonization of marriage, but Clarey provides a handy chapter of disqualifiers, traits, flags, and risk/reward analysis of getting married. This is not necessarily groundbreaking information, but its inclusion around the Manosphere was heretofore scattered across too many blogs and perspectives to be truly useful. 

Despite the general high quality of the ideas, Clarey does get it wrong in one area---the economic and social value of attending an elite university in the United States. He writes:
"These schools are considered 'the best' not because they're actually the best, but because they provide the students with the best connections, nepotism, and networking. In reality, a Harvard graduate is no better or smarter than a University of Ohio [sic] graduate, it's just that he 'went to Harvard' while the other guy went to Ohio. This means your success will not rely on studying and excelling in your passion, as much as it will your ability to schmooze, kiss ass, and brown nose."
In this case, Clarey is simply wrong. If you get accepted to an elite university in the United States and have the financial ability to attend (most have need-blind financial aid anyway), you must do it 10 times out of 10. Speaking from personal experience, he is dreadfully incorrect about the doors it will open, and not just via the dreaded rent-seeking of "networking" that we both detest. Having a name like Harvard, Princeton, Yale, or Stanford on your diploma means that you will never be unemployed for long, likely even after the forthcoming robot singularity. If the goal of college is to make yourself employable, it is logically inconsistent for Clarey to deride schools that makes you eminently more in-demand. His sour grapes in this area taint what was otherwise a very informative and important section in the book. 

Overall, this was a very solid life manual. Clarey's prose has noticeably improved since his early writing, and this book had a much better flow and copyediting than his prior work. I would recommend this especially to younger guys, but it has useful nuggets for men in every life situation, from permanent bachelors to plugged-in guys trying to make sense of the world and live a semi-happy life within the matrix. Buy a copy, even if it's only to give to a teenager or 20-something that you care about.

Click here to buy "Bachelor Pad Economics"

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Want To Make Money? Market To Women.

Male interests usually fall along utilitarian bounds. Generally, we like things because we derive use out of them. The gym membership will get us jacked. The extra shots of booze for our buddies makes our night more fun. The BMW makes us more attractive to women (or so we think). The big-screen TV allows us to enjoy entertainment more.

Unless you are creating a product in a select few industries, to make money these days you must find something that appeals to women. In addition to receiving increasing economic "freedom" (i.e. purchasing power traded for the small cost of fertility, fitness, mental health, time, and happiness), research has shown that women control most of the purchasing power for households. 

To sell something in a society where all of our material needs (and most of our reasonable wants) are satisfied, you need to find something that contains a superfluous, fun, fanciful element that women can latch onto with only the most cursory practical justification. I believe the best way to describe this superficial yet powerful female desire is "pageantry." Products that fit this description include:

Color Runs -- 5k races where people pay to get sprayed with colored paint. Prints money on 5 continents.

Locks Of Love -- A wildly successful "non-profit" (scam) that encourages girls to ruin months of work on their appearance for a donation whose monetary value could be earned through working an extra hour or so per week for the same amount of time.

Instagram -- A company that puts filters on pictures. Sold for a billion dollars.

Zumba -- A way to make aerobic exercise fun and less efficient by combining it with dance moves (slogan: "Join the party!")

The one thing these ideas all have in common is pageantry. Sure, Instagram helps girls get more attention and Zumba in theory helps them get in shape, but these goals are better accomplished in more direct ways that aren't as fun.

If you've come up with an idea or a product in the modern western market, the question you should be asking yourself is not "How can I sell this?" If you want to get rich, the question you should be asking is, "How can I sell this to women?"

Saturday, January 18, 2014

Back In Business

This blog has sat dormant for over a month while I've taken time off to travel, move, change jobs, work on a couple side hustles, and visit with family/friends. It was a necessary respite with many lessons learned, some of which I intend to write about.

During my breather, many colleagues in the manosphere have been cranking out some of their most inspired work yet. Matt ForneyLaidNYC30 Days To XKrauserPillscoutDanger And Play, and Maverick Traveler are just a few that have absolutely killed it over the last couple of months with posts and, in some cases, books. Reading these guys from the sidelines has reinvigorated my interest in writing.

This post is to let you know that Man Ex Machina is back.

In the coming months, I plan on adding some guest posts and tips on money-making strategies, in addition to the customary book reviews, game advice, and other observations about the human condition or our society. I'll also be continuing my weekly column at Return Of Kings, where we have some great things in store for the upcoming year.

If you have any thoughts about the programming or topics you'd like to see addressed, I can always be reached at manexmachina at

Thanks for reading.

-Black Knight