I recently read The Righteous Mind, great book. It talks about the relationship between the rational mind and your emotions. The conclusion is that your emotions are almost completely in control of your actions, and the rational mind is its servant.
Emotions: I'm angry!
Rational Mind: Well that sucks, friend. Maybe we should think about the roo…..
Emotions: Silence you cur! Figure out why me being angry is justified and a good thing, and report back ASAP!
Rational Mind: ON IT!
Your emotions say jump, and your rational mind doesn't even bother to ask how high; it would crawl through five hundred yards of shit smelling foulness you can't even imagine in order to justify what your emotions want to do. It is only when your emotions want you to do something insane that your rational mind says "uh ok you're the boss, but are you SUUUUUUUUUURE about that?" And sometimes not even then.
Happy to do it boss!
Raise your hand if you've heard any of these responses after sharing something you're excited about with what you thought was a friend:
- That's a waste of time
- That won't work
- That sounds dangerous
- That's so weird!
- Why do you care so much?
- Isn't that for losers?
For my response, I agree with the crowd on this one:
When somebody gives you reasons why you shouldn't do something to improve yourself, it's all bullshit. Their emotions are reacting to a perceived slight against their own mediocrity.
Most people in this country gave up trying to improve themselves long ago, because Cheesy Poofs never judge you and the dent in the couch fits their ass like a glove. Somewhere deep in their brain they know what a waste of space they are, which is why the first week of January is Fattie at the Health Club Month. Luckily they stay drugged up enough on corn syrup that most of the time it's barely even a whisper.
When you try to better yourself, people will shit on you. They'll do it because you make them feel bad about themselves. Good, they should feel bad.
It's difficult to accept that many people you know, even your friends, won't want you to improve yourself. The sooner you realize it, the sooner you can tune out the haters and get to work.