Thursday, February 28, 2013

Five Reasons You Shouldn't Get Drunk


Approaching women at night can be an anxious and exhausting experience, and it's natural to have several drinks to blunt feelings of social pressure and facilitate interpersonal exchange. That said, here are five reasons to curb your alcohol consumption while grinding out approaches at the bar or club:
  • Saves money: Going out already represents a significant opportunity cost, since you're devoting a block of time to your game with no guarantee at a reward, instead of working out, working on your business idea, reading a book, learning a language, etc. Why compound that loss with spending upwards of $40-50 (if you're lucky) on watered down mixed drinks or beer of a brand you don't like anyway?
  • Health benefits: Since cutting down on drinking, I have rarely gotten sick. My lifts have gone up steadily, and my body fat percentage has decreased. Alcohol has been shown to reduce testosterone levels, which will not only prevent you from getting the most out of your workouts, but in the long term will make you more sluggish and less likely to approach. And therefore more reliant on alcohol to reduce your inhibitions.
  • Productivity: If I get drunk at night I do not sleep well, and am next to useless the following day independent of any hangover. This compounds the aforementioned opportunity cost by flushing the next day down the toilet.
  • Heightened social awareness: if you're relatively sober and talking to a girl who's had a few drinks, your mental alarm bells will be more sensitive to something that isn't right -- e.g. personality disorder, "too drunk to consent", proclivity for lying/drama. It's admittedly more difficult to run caveman game, but you will be better equipped to take advantage of social cues and more perceptive about easy targets. Note: if you are naturally introverted or shy, this can sometimes work against you.
  • Increased confidence in the long term: The ability to talk to and attract beautiful women while sober represents a leveling-up of your game and gives you rock-solid confidence to draw upon in future approaches.
The first time I forced myself to go out alone and sober, it was as if I was witnessing a play. Think of your drink as the prop that you need to fit into the storyline, and treat it as such. Take infrequent sips, hold it at your side, and refill occasionally if necessary. The drink should be the minimal investment or cover charge to get into the game without looking like an abstaining weirdo.

Another strategy is to have a few drinks, but consume them more slowly over the course of the night. This allows you to get a slight buzz without fully invoking some of the drawbacks above. Nobody you approach has knowledge of how much you've had or how fast you're drinking, and anyone in your group who criticizes you for drinking slowly should be dropped from your crew. 

This approach is not without its disadvantages. Realize that by adopting this M.O., you're going against powerful social pressure to drink to excess, and are likely to incur the curiosity and even ridicule of some friendly acquaintances. There is also a chance that your game will initially take a hit as you adjust to the higher level of anxiety and the clarity of thought that comes from a brain not clouded by alcohol. Don't worry -- this will pass, and you will be better for it.

You should still go crazy and get your drink on when the situation calls for it. But if you plan to be in the game for the long haul, a policy of alcohol austerity is clearly the best long-term play. At worst, you are making a positive lifestyle decision for your brain, body, and wallet. At best, it may rocket your game to a new level.

Monday, February 25, 2013

Fuck Everyone Who Doesn't Want You to Get Better


I recently read The Righteous Mind, great book.  It talks about the relationship between the rational mind and your emotions.  The conclusion is that your emotions are almost completely in control of your actions, and the rational mind is its servant.  

Emotions: I'm angry!
Rational Mind: Well that sucks, friend.  Maybe we should think about the roo…..
Emotions: Silence you cur!  Figure out why me being angry is justified and a good thing, and report back ASAP!
Rational Mind: ON IT!

Your emotions say jump, and your rational mind doesn't even bother to ask how high; it would crawl through five hundred yards of shit smelling foulness you can't even imagine in order to justify what your emotions want to do.  It is only when your emotions want you to do something insane that your rational mind says "uh ok you're the boss, but are you SUUUUUUUUUURE about that?"  And sometimes not even then.


Happy to do it boss!

Raise your hand if you've heard any of these responses after sharing something you're excited about with what you thought was a friend:

  • That's a waste of time
  • That won't work
  • That sounds dangerous
  • That's so weird!
  • Why do you care so much?
  • Isn't that for losers?

For my response, I agree with the crowd on this one:


When somebody gives you reasons why you shouldn't do something to improve yourself, it's all bullshit.  Their emotions are reacting to a perceived slight against their own mediocrity.  

Most people in this country gave up trying to improve themselves long ago, because Cheesy Poofs never judge you and the dent in the couch fits their ass like a glove.  Somewhere deep in their brain they know what a waste of space they are, which is why the first week of January is Fattie at the Health Club Month. Luckily they stay drugged up enough on corn syrup that most of the time it's barely even a whisper.  

When you try to better yourself, people will shit on you.  They'll do it because you make them feel bad about themselves.  Good, they should feel bad.  


Just one more.....

It's difficult to accept that many people you know, even your friends, won't want you to improve yourself.  The sooner you realize it, the sooner you can tune out the haters and get to work.  

You Should Go Out When The Weather Sucks

(Note: This post originally appeared at Return of Kings)

Not everyone is fortunate enough to live in a climactic paradise of perpetual sun, skimpy clothing, and smooth vajayjays. If your city is less than ideal in this respect, you need to push through the inertia and hit the streets twice as hard when the weather is bad.

The simple act of getting out in these situations will help minimize several demographics that stand in your way of gaming beautiful women:

1. Couples: “Oh honey it’s rainy out, let’s stay in and play with Pookums/watch a movie on the couch/avoid overtly acknowledging the monotony of our existence.” People in relationships are actively looking for reasons to stay home instead of patronizing the “creepy” bar scene, and are unlikely to brave the elements so they can pay $15 for a pair of Miller Lites. This also cuts down on committed women who are out with their friends, since the combination of bad weather and not looking for men is often enough to keep them home in pajamas even if they want to be social.

2. Bros who only care about getting drunk: “Fuck this rain, brah. Let’s kill this 30 rack of Keystone and play Halo.” These creatures may or may not pose a serious threat to your game, but they can take up space, make it more difficult to get a drink at the bar, and generally sour the atmosphere of your favorite laid-back pickup spot.

3. Large groups of girls out for no particular reason: Only when they are period-free, went to yoga class, are feeling adventurous, someone else is paying, and Halley’s comet is nigh will typical American girls get off the couch, put makeup on, and go out in public. Crappy weather is just another barrier to achieving this activation energy. Women in big groups are often difficult to approach and more likely to have a cockblocking mother hen among them, so their absence improves your expected value for every approach.

Which populations does bad weather not dissuade as much?

1. Girls who are out looking for men
2. Guys who are serious about the game.

“Bad weather game” is frenetic. You must be ready to bounce venues early and often, and the usual patterns of demographics and timing at your favorite places do not necessarily apply. You should be prepared for worse guy/girl ratios and fewer people on the scene in general.

The upside? You are likely to see a higher percentage of approachable girls, since they had a compelling reason to put themselves in a situation to meet people despite the obvious inconveniences. Bad weather can work particularly to your advantage if you have good logistics — say, an apartment within quick walking distance. Craft your approaches towards dropping small bait about about your lifestyle, and be ready to have a good reason (new music to listen to, a special drink, an impressive view) to suggest moving to your nearby warm and dry lair.

Going out in bad weather may seem counterintuitive, but it presents one option for optimizing your nights out and maximizing the power of your approaches when others are unwilling to grind. If your game is tight and you are looking to take fewer but higher-percentage shots, you need to go out when the weather sucks.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Why You Should Become a Minimalist

(Note: This post originally appeared at Return of Kings)

The most abused word in the English language is “need.” If you’re reading this post, I contend there is little that you actually “need” beyond what you currently possess. You have ample electricity to power your computer in a climate-controlled environment, with running water and  food in your well-stocked refrigerator. Why, then, do you always hear people talking about how they “need” more stuff?

Humans have a deeply-rooted drive to compete with each other, and advertisers capitalize on this impulse. Take a moment to picture the average person that you meet. What do they have to take pride in? Buying the newest thing allows them to join the club of consumers, and for a fleeting moment to be measured on an equal playing field despite their personal shortcomings. The internal pain of their life’s problems dissipates for the split second they can boast superiority over everyone who doesn’t have the same shiny widget.

This conspicuous consumption creates a self-fulfilling ego-investment in the broken system. Although borrowing money for useless luxury purchases subjugates people into debt slavery, the mentality is “If I paid $30,000 for this hunk of metal and I’m working overtime to pay it off, it MUST be worth it — and so are other things that the commercials are telling me to buy.” Quite literally, we are working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need.

If you’re reading this blog, you are likely a male aged 25-35 who wants to do one or more of the following: quit your job, travel, explore a location-independent income, get yourself in shape, take charge of a relationship, and learn valuable life skills. A minimalist mentality helps you do all of these things.

Having fewer possessions forces you to properly place a higher value on experiences. This will make it safer and more fulfilling to travel because you are in touch with what truly makes you happy. If you’re working on a side hustle or starting a business, the desire for needless possessions drains your disposable income levels and prevents you from taking risks. “If my business fails, will I have to give up my car lease?” Preempt this loss aversion by having less to lose.

If you want to move to a better city with a higher cost of living, having excess stuff sets a floor on how much rent you’ll pay to house your crap, and in turn how much you can spend on leisure activities. If you’re a distractable person like me, removing visual “noise” from your area makes you more likely to create things with your mind, and less likely to fixate on your environment.

Throwing or giving useless things away is a good first step, since possessions have a psychic weight that you may not realize until you rid yourself of them. To fully embrace this mindset, you must also kill the desires that have been inculcated in you since birth. Cut down on your “consumer impressions” by watching less TV and trying to rationally dissect the techniques used in the few advertisements you encounter. Find fulfillment in hobbies and work, rather than chasing the rush and eventual hedonic adaptation from consuming. Much like a drug, successive bouts of consumerism create a higher baseline where your overall happiness is no different, but you end up having a bunch of useless crap that ties you down.

Girls can also be troublesome in this endeavor. Ever notice that when a girl spends extended time in your living space, she beings to tell you that you “need” a new this, or a replacement that? A good friend once told me “All human beings have an innate desire to create — most women can’t, so they redecorate.” Limit your exposure to women who attempt to thwart a separation from consumerism. Ironically, men likely to lead a minimalist/nomadic lifestyle are simply more attractive to prime-SMV women. Think about whether the starving artist or the bottle service guy throwing money around ends up getting more ass. As always, watch how women behave rather than listening to what they say when they are protesting your lifestyle change.

Ask yourself this: If your house burned down and you had nothing but the clothes on your back, what would you be worth to society and to yourself? How would you feel about losing all of the possessions you own? Most people plugged into the matrix would rather die than think about replacing Aunt Gladys’s vase or baby pictures they haven’t looked at in a decade. This is an illusion. Once you begin to divorce yourself from this emotional investment to “stuff” you will implicitly place more value on your skills and past experiences.

Minimalism is not a synonym for frugality or cheapness. I don’t wear a potato sack while pedaling a used tricycle to work every day – I simply choose to allocate my money to experiences (and a few possessions) that will fulfill me and advance my life’s purpose, rather than enslave myself into debt for trinkets that will collect dust somewhere.

Taking the red pill is about learning to separate your priorities and desires from those that society forces upon you. I don’t promise that adopting this mindset will make everybody happy, but it will certainly help to clarify what contributes to your individual sense of self, and will allow you to focus on the internal and external traits that exemplify a man of value.

Monday, February 18, 2013

The Assault on Your Time


If you have a normal day job, it's likely that you are constantly pressured either to work later or volunteer for work-related functions outside of normal hours, while people with spouses and kids receive no such pressure. "It's not a big time commitment," your manager will say. "Just do it for the good of the company."

If you are young and single, your time is implicitly valued less than the time of people who have spouses and/or families. Our society presents unspoken and often unchallenged rewards to people who exist within the matrix's established path that often begins with a "serious" relationship and ends with debt slavery. Those in societally-anointed "stable" situations get more tax breaks, more promotions at work, and more favorable portrayal in popular media for participating in the grand plan.

Unfortunately, a situation that lacks adequate value for all parties involved can only provide so many peripheral incentives before it is exposed as a scam. In this corner of the internet, men are beginning to realize that the aforementioned benefits for those who pursue the "American Dream" are few, and the costs are myriad. Some get angry, but it's difficult to blame the system for seeing to its own propagation.

Remember that if you are an intelligent, in-shape, single male with an income, haters will attack you from all areas of society. Your most powerful weapon is the ability to say no to those who attempt to enslave you by stealing your time or limiting your options. Exercise this right frequently.

Sunday, February 17, 2013

The Four-Way Test


(Note: This post originally appeared at Return of Kings)
When I graduated from high school I received a scholarship from my town’s Rotary Club for my academic and extracurricular achievements. The club would occasionally invite me back to their meetings over the summer so I could speak to a group of 50-something moderate Republicans about my exciting college schedule and bright future. I recall that the Rotarians would end each meeting by reciting their “Four-Way Test,” a set of questions that determined whether an agenda item fell within the organization’s code of conduct:
  1. Is it the truth?
  2. Is it fair to all concerned?
  3. Will it build goodwill and better friendships?
  4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
As you seek to navigate a world designed to sabotage you emotionally, sexually, and physically, it is absolutely essential to develop guidelines about your willingness to allocate your resources, chiefly time and money. Are you going to get fat eating takeout food and watching hours of TV every night? Will you accommodate the unyielding assault on your time from a feminist American woman, as she reduces your manhood piecemeal and advances you further down the rabbit hole of an unhappy modern relationship? Or will you resist the crab-in-a-bucket pressure of the masses and withstand labels of “weird” and “selfish” as you embark on a path of constant self-improvement?
To avoid living an average existence devoid of principle, you must visualize the person you want to become and then develop a line of inquiry that will keep you on that path. This is the four-way test that I apply when determining how to use my precious free time and money, and a few pursuits they apply to:
  • Will it help me improve at an useful and/or marketable skill?  Some examples are computer programming, practicing a musical instrument, writing, developing a business idea, working on a side hustle
  • Does it make me healthier or stronger? This applies to lifting heavy, juicing, learning a martial art, food shopping, and cooking my own meals.
  • Does it improve my knowledge about the world or myself? This covers activities such as reading books, following selected blogs and articles online, traveling, and spending time with insightful and supportive friends
  • Will it help me get laid? This includes devoting resources to either day or night game, investing effort in approaches, going out when not in the mood, traveling, and studying humor.
What about leisure time? Everybody needs to waste time and have non-productive fun occasionally, but the question to apply to this area is: “Is it a leisure activity that produces pleasure in a high ratio to time/money spent?” If something doesn’t fulfill one of these four (and a half) criteria, I simply refuse to do it. These are examples of “normal” activities that fail my four-way test:
  • Watching the vast majority of television shows
  • Going out to happy hours and drinking with coworkers you don’t like or respect
  • Spending time with girls you are not fucking
  • Going out to eat more than occasionally
  • Devoting entire weekends to watching sports
  • Following the popular news cycle
This is not meant to advocate a completely ascetic lifestyle. Rather, the test’s purpose is to make you hyper-aware of when you are wasting time and not grinding towards your life’s goals, so that it becomes the rare exception rather than the norm it is for nearly everyone else you meet. If you’ve been procrastinating making some major changes in your life, you should distill your principles down to a four-way test, then apply it religiously for a week. I guarantee you will be closer to your goals at week’s end.

Monday, February 11, 2013

The Death of Attention


I attended a dance party recently where, for whatever reason, the average age was about 38. Older ladies were dressed to the nines without wedding rings on, clearly looking to mingle with strangers. Many of the men were suited up, and I felt underdressed in my v-neck and dark jeans. Despite the interesting scene and good vibe, something about the party felt "off."

As I looked across the dance floor, I came to the surprising realization. In 90 minutes at this party of 50-60 people total, I literally had not seen a single person texting, tweeting, or using Facebook on a smartphone. Denizens of the dance floor were having a good time busting a move, talking to strangers and friends, drinking, and carousing. I approached 4 attractive older women that night, and not a single one tried to check her email or text her friends while we were speaking.

The crowd got predictably younger as the night went on, and when the iPhones started popping out I made my egress. Roosh has written extensively on this topic but it was interesting to see firsthand that it is not only a cultural problem, but a generational one as well. 

Sunday, February 10, 2013

22 and 35


22 will ignore text messages and think you're weird if you use the telephone
35 will answer texts promptly and will be happy when you call

22 will laugh derisively if you take her on a real date and will never contact you again
35 will jump at the chance to go on a date with you, and may even pay the bill

22 will kick you to the curb if you give her anything but the most fleeting bits of attention
35 will feel grateful for your interest and reciprocate even more strongly

22 will spend a night out looking at text messages on her smartphone
35 will want to drink wine with her close friends, and perhaps talk to an interesting man

22 will gorge on late-night pizza without any regard to its effects on her body
35 will hit the gym multiple times a week with a personal trainer

22 will overtly and relentlessly test for cracks in your frame
35 will compliment you on your body, intelligence, sense of humor, and  interests

22 will prattle on about the Kardashians, her dumb friends, and meaningless fake problems
35 will potentially be able to hold a conversation about music, art, sports, or life experience

I once dated a woman in her mid-30s when I was in my mid-20s. I approached her in a bar, dropped some bait about traveling and my hobbies, and we ended up seeing each other for several months. Our interactions were primarily "dates" where she would cook me dinner, fuck my brains out, and then send me on my way. Oddly enough, I enjoyed being around her even after sex. She had interesting insights, was caring and feminine, and spoke with a cute accent.

Competition for girls in their early 20s is a grind and the payoffs are absolutely worth it. On the other hand, while 30+ women understandably get destroyed in the manosphere, they do have value as part of a player's portfolio. An attractive and pleasant older woman can serve as a welcome respite from the gladiator game of chasing college girls...

...at least as long as you can avoid this:

22 will not want a baby, which would derail her party years and the progress of her career
35 will look at pregnancy as a miracle, and unhesitatingly make you a debt slave for 18 years

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

"It's A Wonderful Life" is Blue Pill Fantasyporn


I'm somewhat embarrassed to admit that "It's a Wonderful Life" was one of my favorite holiday movies growing up. Despite George Bailey's endearing purity of intention, however, I've come to realize that the movie is just another outdated blue pill fairy tale infused with Hollywood cliches and conformist ideology.

If you haven't seen the movie, the protagonist George Bailey plays the subservient beta, clinging to the expectations of others and essentially blaming external forces for his own lack of ownership over his life's path. Over the course of his lifetime (the movie spans 30+ years), George:
  • Risks his life to save his brother's, leaving him permanently disabled and unable to serve in the military
  • Passes up a risky but lucrative entrepreneurial opportunity to do his duty to his family business
  • Desperately wishes to travel the world, but puts it off indefinitely due to job responsibilities
  • Holds a oneitis for his eventual wife that stops him from enjoying a life pursuing other women
  • Uses his hard-earned honeymoon money to bail his family business out of a crisis caused by an imbecile
  • Nearly loses his business to the "evil" rich man in town despite all of his good deeds

At the end, he is destitute and about to kill himself when an angel steps in and shows him the extent of the positive impact he's had upon the world. In a renewed passion for life, George hurries home, where all of his friends are waiting with money to help pay off his debt and save the business.

The movie's chief message -- briefly summarized as "Live your life for everyone else, and you'll be rewarded" -- bears suspicious resemblance to the promise of religious afterlife that has successfully subjugated lower classes since the beginning of time. Similar to Hollywood's niceguy-gets-the-girl bromide, such films control our society by imploring people to play by all of the rules for a delayed gratification that never really comes.

As with most mass-produced popular media, the lessons you should take from the film are diametrically opposed to what is actually portrayed in the movie. Question what people are telling you to do. Do not accept societal reproach for living the life you desire without deferential regard for the interests of others. Unlike George Bailey's reality, a guardian angel will not intervene at the end of your limited days and save you from the putrid pathos of a life lived for others.

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