Thursday, July 17, 2014

Don't Sell Your Plan

It is often said that a man must be decisive. Most of us know that “whatever you want” is always the wrong answer to a woman’s question. 

No matter what stage of dating you are in with a girl, I would take this advice one step further — never try to persuade a girl of any plan. When interacting with men, you can use logic to convince them of the merit of a particular course of action. The second you start selling your plan to women, though, it reeks of desperation and shows that you are begging for her approval. Here’s an excerpt of a text exchange I had with a girl:
Me: “Let’s get together Thursday night"
Girl: "Sorry, I'm going to XYZZZZZ :)"
Girl:”But what did you have planned?"
She wanted me to take the bait and dazzle her with my best offer so she could reject me yet again. I could have either agreed and amplified, telling her that I reserved a hot air balloon, seventeen course meal, and backstage passes to a Coldplay concert just for the two of us. But, my time is valuable -- why would I set myself up for future flakes and debase myself to be her dancing clown? Instead, I never spoke to the girl again. 

There’s a great post in the Danger and Play archives about this principle within a semi-relationship. You must operate from a place where spending time with you, and not whatever thing you are doing, is the valuable component to the plan.

A rookie mistake is to assume that women can be persuaded logically to spend time with you, but attraction cannot be negotiated. Because they tend to live more in the moment (and because they have so many offers), women are not going to do anything that they don't immediately want to do. If you have to justify or sell, you've already lost.

Never sell your plan to girls. If they feign that they are deciding whether to spend time with you conditional on your plan, they see you as a low-value sucker whose time and wallet they can rape with impunity.

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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Beige Phillip Podcast Review - Episode 94 - A Typical Marriage

I’ve written a couple of posts on ROK inspired by Dante Nero’s Beige Phillip show, a solid podcast that showcases many Red Pill principles while continuing the intellectual and philosophical lineage of Patrice O’Neal. I’ve been working my way through the back catalogue, and plan on dropping a few reviews of episodes when I think of it. Check out the show on the iTunes store or the official website.

The theme of this episode (#94) was giving up control in a marriage. Comedian Joe Matarese recounts how his wife moved them out to the suburbs (away from his career and family, closer to hers) and subsequently encouraged a (female) psychiatrist to diagnose him with mental health issues and put him on 11 different medications. This is a layup example of the growing tendency to pathologize masculinity and sacrifice society at the altar of big pharma. It's only going to get worse.

Matarese also says that his wife disapproves when he has a couple of drinks, and even complains when he has more than one coffee. “I love you when you’re just you” — Typical female excuse to abridge a man having fun and breaking out of the matrix, if only for a few hours. Her justification is that Matarese never drank at the beginning of their relationship, so now it is suddenly unacceptable. This is grim example of one of the Beige Phillip principles — anything you do for a woman more than 3 times is an obligation. 

There was a light subplot of Mara’s story of getting arrested, a bogus charge for handing a drink to an underage bar patron even though she didn’t take the order. Harry astutely points out that things again are different in “Mara world”, referring to her polite treatment by police officers. 

Dante drops a bomb on Matarese when he asks about his wife when he asks what she says she needs to fix about herself. Matarese had no answer. Poignant question, and excellent example of how women feel that they can slide in a relationship without working on themselves. Patrice used to say that “pussy is the wheels on the car” in the context of a committed relationship, meaning that girls who expect you to stick around regardless of their drive to “be a better bitch” are dangerous bets for commitment, I wish Dante had hammered on this point a bit more, but most likely he didn’t want to harp too heavily on the inequity in Matarese’s marriage because it’s already a done deal.

Matarese was an adequate guest, mostly notable for his cautionary tale of a marriage and mainstream blue pill views on his relationship. Dante drops solid wisdom throughout the podcast to combat it, and the juxtaposition makes it an effective teaching tool. No listener mail this week.

Overall Rating: 3/5

Line Of The Week: “I know a lot of smart Ph.D motherfuckers who are dumb as shit“ - Dante

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Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Pill Scout's Male Health Protocol

I was excited to hear that one of my favorite bloggers, Pill Scout, was releasing a book to supplement the excellent wisdom he has dispensed on his blog. Pill Scout's first eBook, "The Male Health Protocol," provides an excellent Cliff's Notes version for advice on diet, exercise, mood, sleep, and general wellness. This book can be bought as a package with the "Testosterone Black Book," which contains tips on how to naturally increase one's testosterone and performance in the bedroom.

The book isn't just useful for the supplementally and nutritionally uninitiated --- I've been following Pill Scout's blog for a while now, and though I have diet and exercise practices in the top 10% of men my age, I still found a few things to tweak for the better. Reading through this excellent compilation reminded me, for example, to revisit the jar of apple cider vinegar in my fridge and told me about the specific benefits of green tea. I also learned that L-Citrulline could help as an erection enhancer, and that raw cocoa powder could help to improve my workouts. These minor tips are worth the price alone, and the book may be a revelation for those who are starting without much knowledge on nutritional supplementation.

My only critiques on Pill Scout's book are very minor. As someone else mentioned, including dosages would have been helpful, and there are a few areas where terms are included without definitions ---"keto" for instance, could have benefitted from a one or two-line explanation, and perhaps some background or protocol on the non-intuitive (but highly beneficial) practice of intermittent fasting.

Overall, this an excellent collection from one of my favorite bloggers, a book that can benefit both newbies and veterans of Pill Scout's site. Be sure to buy it and also check out his new site over at Anarcho Introvert.